I was in my last year of university when I started playing poker seriously. My roommate, who had known me as a relatively level-headed and scheduled person beforehand, was startled by the change my dedication to the game had on my personality. Or more aptly, my moods. I swung between the highs and lows, depending on how the game played out, and while it gives me no pleasure to admit this, sometimes my moods spilled over onto her. Thankfully I've learned since then and I owe much of my ability to identify my ups and downs as mine – no one else's.

I was not all that surprised to discover my past behaviour is not exclusive to me. Over the years, I have spoken with many poker players – both amateur and professional – and have heard countless stories about similar reactions. It was even more interesting when I started speaking to their loved ones about their experiences. Understand: Not every player or spouse or relative will have experienced this issue, but a number have and it is well worthwhile to consider. Based on these conversations, I have compiled a short list of hints to help you stay honest and focussed on what really matters.

For The Player...

Leave it at the table. For many players, poker is like a job – a job we love but has its up and downs like any other job. If you have a bad run, don't take it home with you. In the event you can't shed the bad vibes, let your loved one know this and take some time to cool down.

Make time to take time. Trust me, I know what a rush poker can be, but you have to also make sure you don't ignore the important people in your life. Just because they accept (or tolerate) your passion, doesn't mean they want to take a backseat. Be sure to take time off and spend it with your loved ones – and when you make plans to do this, make sure you stick with it. Don't cancel and don't simply squeeze them in. Poker has been around for centuries. It won't be going anywhere soon.

Hold the phone. More to point, answer the phone. Or your e-mails. Obviously, not at the table, but if you are travelling make sure you don't neglect your relationships by responding to any communications.

Don’t lie. This goes for any healthy relationship, but especially when you play poker since money – and sometimes large sums of money – can be involved. Lying about your losses will only lead to more lies. Keep it simple and tell the truth. Not only will it keep you honest with your loved ones, but it will keep you honest with yourself.

- Patricia Lang, Tower Gaming Media Room Manager